Recognising Abandonment Trauma In Adulthood

Do you have experiences and feelings of ...

  • People

    You find yourself very easily attached to people right after meeting them and the relationship escalates quickly. Have a fear of being left alone, abandoned.

  • Trust

    Trust doesn't come easy to you. You look for things to confirm your suspicions that you can't trust the person in front of you. You experience emotional flashbacks, leading to feelings of panic or intense emotional distress

  • People Pleasing

    You're afraid people will leave you, judge you or discover you are flawed if you don't make them happy. You judge yourself and set unrealistic perfectionist standards for yourself and other

  • Connection

    You're afraid if you get too close to anyone they will leave you, so you choose disconnection over connection. You've been unable to form healthy adult relationships.

  • Jealousy

    You find yourself becoming jealous easily and you feel insecure because deep down you don't feel worthy of love.

  • Relationships

    Emotionally unavailable and closed down people seem to be always attracted to you. Holding onto toxic relationships to avoid feelings of abandonment or loneliness is something you've been aware of doing and you'd prefer to avoid conflict.

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The Attachment Theory: How Childhood Affects Life

Watch to gain a deep understanding of where and how emotional abuse/attachment disorders can begin in early life and continue to impact into adulthood

"I feel such sorrow that you were so abandoned and that you felt so alone so much of the time. I love you even more when you are stuck in this abandonment pain - especially because you had to endure it for so long with no one to comfort you. It shouldn't happen to any child. Let me comfort and hold you. You didn't cause it and you're not to blame. You don't have to do anything. Just let me hold you. Take your time. I love you always and care about you no matter what." - Pete Walker

My Story experiencing Abandonment Trauma

Having spent years in personal development, self awareness and a spiritual journey there were still elements of my internal world that were unknown to me.

I've never viewed the elements of my childhood through the lense of emotional neglect, rejection and dissertion. The invisible, untouchable abandonment wound was alive and well inside of me and I had no clue. It kept me in a cycle of loneliness, of relationships that never worked out, of people pleasing and self sabotage and ultimately in believing that my life was safer and more manageable if I did life on my own. Unknown to me was when my parents and brother disappeared overnight without explanation at 4 years of age the intense fear I had for who would take care of me, of not being able to wrap my tiny mind around what was happening, followed by no mum for over 3 weeks, escalated my already existing abandonment wound.

Yes, without knowledge, my abandonment wound already existed.

I was an unexpected child, conceived out of wedlock in the days when this was not the done thing. Generationally the women from both sides of my family already carried abandonment trauma, so my mum found it hard to express love of any kind. At 4 years of age I already knew the family rules of we don't talk about our emotions, and in place of the lack of connection with my mum I mothered my younger brother. Emotional abandonment is the result of a significant person discarding you, dismissing you, devaluing you, or not acknowledging you. Unfortunately my mum continued to do all of these throughout my life. The good news is I discovered how to recover from this deep emotional neglect and you can too. The details in this course will explain what is happening internally for you, how you can recognise it in your daily life and take you on an experiential journey to bring together your external and internal world, developing your whole self. It's through this process we can stop the self sabotage, we can connect deeply in relationships and we no longer have to operate out of fear of being abandoned ever again.

Healing Warriors are not born or made, they choose to consciously break the cycle of generations of trauma.

“As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.”― Bessel A. van der Kolk

Abandonment Recovery Modules

Each Module is applied for 1 week at a time. This gives you education and the ability to identify and integrate the one next step to break the intergenerational abandonment wound

  • Contents of Each Module

    Each Module has 1 instructional video, 1 side of professional slides, 1 Digital Workbook you can follow the video with and use at your Daily Reflection Workbook. Each Module Contains up to 14 Different Slides with Images and Information for our Internal Abandonment Process to be easily identified in our daily life.

  • Time Requirement

    30 mins once a week, and 5 minutes each day for self reflection. This course is unique, it helps you know how to integrate your internal awareness and gives you the one next step through self reflection daily.

  • Module 1: Identifying Sensitivity to Rejection

  • Module 2: Abandonment & Neediness

  • Module 3: Abandonment & Boundaries

  • Module 4: Reconditioning the Nervous System

  • Module 5: Developing a Sense of Self

  • Module 6: Connecting to My Story

  • Module 7: Reframing My Abandonment Story

  • Module 8: Love Addiction

  • Module 9: Dissociation Revealedfe

  • Module 10: Abandonment Anxiety

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Abandonment Recovery Course

Online Course Contents for Breaking the Abandonment Cycle

  • This Online Course contains 10 Video Tutorials and 10 Digital Manuals for charting your Abandonment Recovery Progess

  • Watch 1 video per week and complete the Digital Manual as you integrate the knowledge and personal awareness into your daily life to help identify and break the abandonment cycle

  • Can be used with or without a Mental Health professional. All instructions are contained in the Digital Manual

Linda I have to tell you I have been in Complex PTSD therapy and an intensive therapy like hospital IOP which in the States is intensive outpatient. I always refuse to go inpatient because my colleagues would know I was there as I was a high level nurse in the hospital and everyone knew me. When I was working and everything was hidden away in my brain from my childhood I was making way over six figures and I spent over $20,000 out of pocket back then trying to get the best help I could but it didn't work. That was in addition to my insurance which was high level. I have been in therapy for over 20 years and I have to tell you...you are the first person who has given me hope... For a normal life and being triggered is not the end of the world. I wanted to thank you for all you do. I am so blessed to have met you because you've really helped me. I am slowly becoming the person I always hoped I could be. Much love and heartfelt appreciation. - Danielle Morrison RN PHD

Bessel Van Der Kolk

The Body Keeps the Score

"Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes they often become expert in ignoring their gut feelings and in ignoring what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves."
Before I met Linda my life was at such a low point. I didn't know where to turn or what to do. I had tried Therapists and it was like being on a Merry-Go-Round. Nothing was changing so I refused to go anymore. I was on a wait list for DBT but my Mum found Linda and after working with her my life is now happy, bright and I enjoy every day. I went from being anxious and depressed alone at home, to joining a local choir, joining the St. John Ambulance to train for helping at Concerts, being able to help my mum at home and best of all I now have a beautiful relationship. R.M. Bangor, Ireland

Frequently Asked Questions

Here's what You Need to Know

  • When does the Course start & finish?

    The course starts now and is available whenever you are ready, always. The benefit of being online is you pace yourself, it literally fits into your daily life.

  • How long do I have access to the course?

    How does lifetime access sound? After enrolling, you have unlimited access to this course for as long as you like - across any and all devices you own.

  • Can I use the course whilst working with a Professional?

    Yes. Taking in your notes and observations to your Mental Health Care professional will help you progress through therapy.

  • What if I am unhappy with the Course?

    We would never want you to be unhappy! If you are unsatisfied with your purchase, contact us in the first 7 days and we will give you a full refund.

Linda Meredith

Certified Trauma Recovery Coach/Counsellor

Have you ever wondered how the bad things that happened in your childhood changed you and continue to impact your life? Like you, I had the bad things happen in my childhood and they turned my adulthood into a train wreck, repeatedly. More than anything I wanted to be free of Complex Ptsd and to have the life I believed I was designed to live. Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk says it this way "Trauma affects the entire human organism—body, mind, and brain. In (c)PTSD the body continues to defend against a threat that belongs to the past." For me the question then became how do I get off this defence system? Lots of practical experience, lots of years of study, and I'm winning the defence system battle. No longer do I suffer from crippling anxiety that came with mini epileptic seizures, no longer does depression rule my life, and the journey to breaking free means I know intimately what will work and what won't work. I know who I am, why I am here, and where I'm headed. None of which was possible prior to doing the work. If you're ready I can now teach you and fully equip you to break free more time and cost effectively and more importantly more permanently than spending decades talking in a therapists office. #togetherwecan

Client Reviews

Reviews are from genuine clients who have asked for their identities to remain private. Until we can speak openly about Mental Health with our family, friends and work colleagues, I respect the need for confidentiality.

“Today I got triggered. AND, thanks to Linda Meredith's amazing course I was able to get a huge understanding of what I'm going through and deal with it so that my negative feelings don't linger much longer. This awareness is priceless. She is a solid coach and I highly recommend her courses and one on one coaching to whoever wants to deal with their challenge. Truly, thank you Linda.”

B.T. Bangkok, Thailand

“Yours is an entirely new concept specifically designed for CPtsd. It also shows me logically how I am the master of my life. That I have the power to create my own road map of recovery to remission. The process is structured and manageable. It gives me strength and confidence knowing I am the master of my life. Thank you for choosing to share all that you do and are with us.”

D.Z. California, U.S.

“I've learned more from 25 minutes of this woman than all the years of therapy that I've had combined, since diagnosis. I went through a 6 week program on PTSD, did nothing. No, that's not true, it confused me even more. Made it worse in a way. I am obsessed enough about my recovery that I was able to maintain my attention until the end and understand what you were saying! (I also suffer ADHD). I have no doubts my recovery will be going a lot faster now because of you! I've saved your video and plan to watch it a few more times. Your analogies were perfect in explanation, for me. So, thank you again."”

B.L. Tennessee, U.S.

“I just thought there was no hope for me. For the first time I have some hope because of your courses. I'm so grateful I found you because I've had Complex Ptsd for over 30 years. I'm in the medical field and over 30 years of therapy has not helped. I find your methodology helping me more than anything I've ever tried, so thank you!”

D.M. Connecticut, USA

“Before I met Linda my life was at such a low point. I didn't know where to turn or what to do. I had tried Therapists and it was like being on a Merry-Go-Round. Nothing was changing so I refused to go anymore. I was on a wait list for DBT but my Mum found Linda and after working with her my life is now happy, bright and I enjoy every day. I went from being anxious and depressed alone at home, to joining a local choir, joining the St. John Ambulance to train for helping at Concerts, being able to help my mum at home and best of all I now have a beautiful relationship. Thank you so much Linda! You truly were sent into my life by God! I will forever be thankful to you!R.R.R”

R.M. Bangor, Ireland

“Guys, Its been a few weeks since I have learned of Complex PTSD. Things are changing and I am gaining control of my life. Since then I have shared this with some family members only to have them question me and my "self diagnosis" or this therapist I found online. Also My trainer doesn't believe it. I'm guessing its going to continue like this. And that's okay. They don't get it. They are not seeing my huge growth. It's new for them and they have never heard of it, never experienced it and know little to nothing about it. The mere mention of PTSD freaks them out. I'm sure they think PTSD is only for army veterans. When I got triggered during an intensive workout with my trainer, I told him I can't breath deeply and he was skeptical. He said it's normal and it's hard to breath because of the exercise. One true true thing about it that I learned from Linda Meredith's Depression course Is that Complex PTSD is often mistaken with other symptoms or mental issues like bipolar, ADD etc... Eventually he had to accept it because I was calmly insisting after all breath shortness has passed. I will do the same with my family and friends. Guys, I am just so grateful I have the tools now and that's all that matters. Now I wake up with energy and a clear mind. I have the tools to deal with it. When triggered, I can take action and that's priceless! Linda, I can't thank you enough. ”

S.G. Chon Buri, Thailand