Complex Ptsd: Safe Relationships

Have you experienced ...

  • Emotions

    You are unable to share your feelings, concerns, or desires without fear, you've learnt to hide your empathy and compassion, you feel like you're in one sided relationships where you listen and act and others do all the talking and demanding both verbal and nonverbal. You can feel like you always anticipate how others will feel by the actions you take, you're highly aware of how others feel and have yet to meet someone who understands how you feel. Trust of others is virtually non existent and you need to learn how to trust your decision making process. You find yourself shutting down, closing off, to keep yourself emotionally safe, often feeling that being alone is the safest place for you.

  • Relationships

    Your history has been one of giving trust before it's even earned because you didn't know that trust had to be earned in a relationship. You find yourself paranoid and snooping on social media because you can't trust what people are telling you but don't have the ability and learning to know what to do to cease your own internal pain. You've craved a deeper connection with a significant other but only chosen those who don't know how nor do they want to do the work to connect deeply. Betrayal, lack of loyalty, have featured in your relationships and sometimes you've scratched your head wondering where on earth you went wrong with your decision making process.

  • Health

    Unhealthy, toxic relationships impact every sphere of our lives. Our mental, spiritual, emotional, financial, physical, sexual health are each impacted in different ways when we venture into unsafe relationships. With Complex Ptsd added into the equation i.e. already having possible mental, physical, emotional, sexual etc health challenges created in childhood adding the extra stress from toxic adult relationships further reduces our wellness. Complex Ptsd brings with a naivety that we need to address to help us stop making the same decisions because our nervous system feels comfortable around people who are toxic because that is the environment we were raised in.

Watch Intro Video

The Still Face Experiment Dr. Edward Tronick PhD

Watch to gain a deeper understanding of where and how attachment disorders can begin in early life. This speaks more than words can convey.

“The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her, and supports her. If that person is missing, if the child must risk losing the mother's love or her substitute in order to feel, then she will repress emotions.”

Alice Miller

Desperate to Break the Unsafe Relationship Cycle? I was too.

My last marriage, I've had two, nearly broke me with an implied moment of me feeling unsafe. Basically I came to understand in a single moment I wasn't loved or needed for me, it was what I was supposed to bring to the marriage. From that precise moment on my health went barrelling downhill so quickly I can't remember all the details. I do remember the 30mg of morphine injections every third day that didn't work and feeling like my ability to communicate had left me. I ended up bedridden for over 2 years, lost all cognitive functions i.e. no ability to walk unaided, no ability to talk, I couldn't care for myself and needed a full time carer. I had full blown epileptic seizures that I had never before experienced in my life. The father of my children died, and I wasn't cognitive enough to be there for them and I'm still shedding tears as I write because my kids were my reason for every decision I made to break the cycle for them.
If you're here reading and have Complex Ptsd please don't go into another relationship until you learn about safe relationships, until you unpack your patterns, until you know who you are and won't give that up for anyone, because it can cost you your health like it did to me. I don't want you to lose your health and I do want you to experience safe, beautiful, kind, loving, deep relationships in this lifetime. I'm at the stage now where I develop healthy, intelligent, functioning relationships where we are upfront and honest from the start about our intentions and I can tell you it's a relief to be in this space. I personally don't know if I'll ever be in an exclusive relationship or married again as I'm not in the space of wanting that or being well enough at this time. I discovered there was so much to learn about how I ended up in relationships that were not only unsafe, they were unhealthy and not good examples for my children. Even though I set out with the best knowledge I could equip myself with at the time of getting married, I still didn't choose wisely because of what was wired into me throughout my childhood.
And this is why our recovery work is not just important, it saves our lives, our health and provides us with the life and relationships we've only ever dreamed of since childhood. Well, the since childhood is my personal dream. Recently I said to Nic, my son, that the only thing I ever wanted when I was growing up was to be married and never divorced. All sides of my family have divorce, right back into the days and times where divorce was not a socially acceptable thing to do, when you were supposed to put up with the toxicity and stay married. Now we understand how abandonment and abuse can restructure our brains in childhood and we can use this information to heal from the unsafe relationships we were raised around because our internal nervous system needs the recovery. Until we do the recovery we will continue to feel safe around those who are toxic because we are actually dissociating. When we're dissociating part of our brain, our logical thinking part, is unable to be accessed, and this is why I kept making the same mistakes in regards to relationships. We must first do our work so we know when we are dissociating and understand we need to be safe before we can make life changing decisions. Welcome to your safe place.

Healing Warriors are not born or made, they choose to consciously break the cycle of generations of trauma.

“As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.”― Bessel A. van der Kolk

What You'll Learn

This Course will Feature Lessons On

  • Module 1. Building Trust

  • Module2. Brokenness

  • Module 3. Safety Part 1

  • Module 4. Safety Part 2

  • Module 5. Recognising Safe People

  • Digital Manuals

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What does your Digital Manual Look Like?

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Complex Ptsd: Safe Relationships

Online Course Contents for Safe Relationships

  • Course contains 5 Video Tutorials and 5 Digital Manuals for charting your Safe Relationships Recovery

  • Watch 1 video per week and complete the Digital Manual as you integrate the knowledge and personal awareness into your daily life to help you break free from the repetitive cycles

  • Can be used with or without a Mental Health professional. All instructions are contained in the Digital Manual

Linda I have to tell you I have been in Complex PTSD therapy and an intensive therapy like hospital IOP which in the States is intensive outpatient. I always refuse to go inpatient because my colleagues would know I was there as I was a high level nurse in the hospital and everyone knew me. When I was working and everything was hidden away in my brain from my childhood I was making way over six figures and I spent over $20,000 out of pocket back then trying to get the best help I could but it didn't work. That was in addition to my insurance which was high level. I have been in therapy for over 20 years and I have to tell you...you are the first person who has given me hope... For a normal life and being triggered is not the end of the world. I wanted to thank you for all you do. I am so blessed to have met you because you've really helped me. I am slowly becoming the person I always hoped I could be. Much love and heartfelt appreciation. - Danielle Morrison RN PHD

Bessel Van Der Kolk

The Body Keeps the Score

"Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes they often become expert in ignoring their gut feelings and in ignoring what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves."
Before I met Linda my life was at such a low point. I didn't know where to turn or what to do. I had tried Therapists and it was like being on a Merry-Go-Round. Nothing was changing so I refused to go anymore. I was on a wait list for DBT but my Mum found Linda and after working with her my life is now happy, bright and I enjoy every day. I went from being anxious and depressed alone at home, to joining a local choir, joining the St. John Ambulance to train for helping at Concerts, being able to help my mum at home and best of all I now have a beautiful relationship. R.M. Bangor, Ireland

Linda Meredith

Certified Trauma Recovery Coach/Counsellor

Have you ever wondered how the bad things that happened in your childhood changed you and continue to impact your life? Like you, I had the bad things happen in my childhood and they turned my adulthood into a train wreck, repeatedly. More than anything I wanted to be free of Complex Ptsd and to have the life I believed I was designed to live. Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk says it this way "Trauma affects the entire human organism—body, mind, and brain. In (c)PTSD the body continues to defend against a threat that belongs to the past." For me the question then became how do I get off this defence system? Lots of practical experience, lots of years of study, and I'm winning the defence system battle. No longer do I suffer from crippling anxiety that came with mini epileptic seizures, no longer does depression rule my life, and the journey to breaking free means I know intimately what will work and what won't work. I know who I am, why I am here, and where I'm headed. None of which was possible prior to doing the work. If you're ready I can now teach you and fully equip you to break free more time and cost effectively and more importantly more permanently than spending decades talking in a therapists office. #togetherwecan

Client Reviews

Reviews are from genuine clients who have asked for their identities to remain private. Until we can speak openly about Mental Health with our family, friends and work colleagues, I respect the need for confidentiality.

“Today I got triggered. AND, thanks to Linda Meredith's amazing course I was able to get a huge understanding of what I'm going through and deal with it so that my negative feelings don't linger much longer. This awareness is priceless. She is a solid coach and I highly recommend her courses and one on one coaching to whoever wants to deal with their challenge. Truly, thank you Linda.”

B.T. Bangkok, Thailand

“Yours is an entirely new concept specifically designed for CPtsd. It also shows me logically how I am the master of my life. That I have the power to create my own road map of recovery to remission. The process is structured and manageable. It gives me strength and confidence knowing I am the master of my life. Thank you for choosing to share all that you do and are with us.”

D.Z. California, U.S.

“I've learned more from 25 minutes of this woman than all the years of therapy that I've had combined, since diagnosis. I went through a 6 week program on PTSD, did nothing. No, that's not true, it confused me even more. Made it worse in a way. I am obsessed enough about my recovery that I was able to maintain my attention until the end and understand what you were saying! (I also suffer ADHD). I have no doubts my recovery will be going a lot faster now because of you! I've saved your video and plan to watch it a few more times. Your analogies were perfect in explanation, for me. So, thank you again."”

B.L. Tennessee, U.S.

“I just thought there was no hope for me. For the first time I have some hope because of your courses. I'm so grateful I found you because I've had Complex Ptsd for over 30 years. I'm in the medical field and over 30 years of therapy has not helped. I find your methodology helping me more than anything I've ever tried, so thank you!”

D.M. Connecticut, USA

“Before I met Linda my life was at such a low point. I didn't know where to turn or what to do. I had tried Therapists and it was like being on a Merry-Go-Round. Nothing was changing so I refused to go anymore. I was on a wait list for DBT but my Mum found Linda and after working with her my life is now happy, bright and I enjoy every day. I went from being anxious and depressed alone at home, to joining a local choir, joining the St. John Ambulance to train for helping at Concerts, being able to help my mum at home and best of all I now have a beautiful relationship. Thank you so much Linda! You truly were sent into my life by God! I will forever be thankful to you!R.R.R”

R.M. Bangor, Ireland

“When I got triggered during an intensive workout with my trainer, I told him I can't breath deeply and he was skeptical. He said it's normal and it's hard to breath because of the exercise. One true true thing about it that I learned from Linda Meredith's Depression course Is that Complex PTSD is often mistaken with other symptoms or mental issues like bipolar, ADD etc... Eventually he had to accept it because I was calmly insisting after all breath shortness has passed. I will do the same with my family and friends. Guys, I am just so grateful I have the tools now and that's all that matters. Now I wake up with energy and a clear mind. I have the tools to deal with it. When triggered, I can take action and that's priceless! Linda, I can't thank you enough. ”

S.G. Chon Buri, Thailand